Single at the Holidays? Avoid The Top 10 Dating Mistakes

 If you are single or single again, you know about the pressure to be part of a couple during the holidays. Last year the compulsion to connect resulted in a 350% increase in online dating traffic from Thanksgiving through the New Year. Many of these new connections turn into ongoing romances, but others crash before takeoff.  Pilot error is the biggest reason for faulty connections as many try to find a love that lasts. If you desire to couple-up during the holidays, you’ll want to increase your odds of success by avoiding the top ten holiday dating blunders presented in Kailen Rosenberg’s book Real Love Right Now

Top 10 Dating Blunders That Will Take The Jolly Out of Your Holidays

1.) The Fast and The Furious: The North Pole: Fast tracking the relationship before the feelings are fully developed or accelerating the exclusivity of the relationship and speeding up the intimacy before the relationship has genuinely moved beyond the casual stage;

2.) Home Alone: Inviting that special person home for the holidays prematurely so as not to be the only unattached family member at the holiday festivities;

3.) Scrooged: Ridiculously overspending on holiday gifts and making the other person feel uncomfortable and put on the spot; 

4.) The Grinch Who Stole Christmas: Making the unfortunate choice to hook up with an Ex to avoid being alone over the holidays only to be reminded once again why they are an Ex;

5.) Heartburn: Having an ugly confrontation with an Ex at a holiday party in front of your new man/woman;

6.) Nightmare Before Christmas: Expecting a marriage proposal or engagement over the holidays – you miss being in the moment by having such unrealistic expectations;

7.) He’s Just Not That Into You: Prolonging a dying or dead relationship just so you can be together for the holidays;

8.) The Christmas Story: Every conversation you have with your new friend is about a couple who is getting engaged / getting married / getting away for the holidays;

9.) Meet Me In St. Bart’s: Jetting off to far away places with someone you barely know;

10.) Love Story: Faking a terminal illness to attract or keep a lover – enough said.

Rosenberg concludes:  “New relationships, regardless of how seemingly successful they are leaving the gate, require time and patience to grow and develop. Your first holiday in a relationship should be the start of your special journey together, not your final destination. There are few greater gifts in the world than that of a happy, healthy, sexy, thriving relationship, especially with your soulmate. So have fun, take it slow, and remember, if this is ‘the one’, they’re not going anywhere.”

For more on finding a love that lasts take a look at my latest book,  The Science of Finding Love That Lasts

Tip 44: Single? Kiss More Toads On-line

Are you promoting shallow involvements if you kiss your toads on-line?  Some experts say that social media results in superficial connections. They remind us that real relationships are mutual investments, and must be stronger and more meaningful. I agree that society needs more real and meaningful relationships, but, in my opinion, social networks are a great way to initiate and build these partnerships. Let’s look at dating as an example.

In the old days, singles threw their nets into  a small geographical pools  to find available toads for kissing. Now, with the internet, the pool of toads has expanded to include most of the world’s population of toads.

Are your on-line toads different from than their off-line kissing cousins?  Off-line you’ll find a small number of toads with warts similar to your own—in reality those bumps are  parotid glands—, while on-line you’ll find a greater number of toads, but with more diversity of warts. Toads every where? Here’s how to manage yours.

Try this…

Step up to the lily pad and kiss your quota of on-line toads.

It’s a great way to find out if your warts match enough to warrant an off-line meet up. If you see possibilities, you’ll want to meet face to face to see if there is a chemistry match. If there is a match, you’ll want to date in real life to see how well you two, as a couple, can play with others.  When you communicate on-line you know how a person likes to present him or herself, but it takes times and experiences to find how a person really responds to life.

If you find their warts are a better match for someone else, it’s easy to terminate an on-line pre-dating relationship than in real life. What’s that? You want to know how? Here’s what you say:

“This relationship isn’t going to work for me. Good luck in finding your perfect match”.

What’s that? What if they ask why? If they do ask, they are being pushy. After all you haven’t even met face to face. In this case, here is your very last communication.

“I’m really not what you are looking for.”  Click

When you communicate on-line you know how a person likes to present him or herself, but it takes times and experiences to find how a person really responds to life.

How not to screw up this lovely advice…

The biggest and most frequent mistakes people make on-line has to do with acceptance. If the person is not right for you, cut it off and let them move on. Give them the same courtesy if you are not a match for them. If you feel it’s time to meet face to face and they are reluctant, its time to let go.

Affirmation…

My real relationships progress step by step whether they begin in real life or on a social network.

Today’s tip comes from The Science of Finding Love That Lasts,  by Dr. B, and available on Amazon, Kindle, and most other eReaders.

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Romance Not Working For You? Maybe You Don’t Have the Right Tools

 Your present and past experiences, thoughts, and beliefs— even your biochemistry– seem to push, pull and even fight each other for domination of our relationship destiny, making it difficult to find a love that lasts. The free and powerful tools of Time and Privacy allow you to build more intimacy when you want to move a relationship forward and easily limit intimacy when you want to slow things down. Pretty handy tools, eh? If you are looking for a love that lasts, these are the tools for you.

Mark: I never know if I should continue making advances, so I just keep asking her out and making moves. I don’t get any feedback from her, so I have to guess if she wants me to continue.

Logan: I’ve been out with Mark a few times, but I’ve never called him or invited him to do anything. I never respond to his advances. You’d think he’s get the hint.

Adam and Eva demonstrate

Time:  In a beginning friendship or romantic relationship, one person may offer to get together for a specific period of time. Offers of time ideally start small and increase gradually as the couple desires more closeness. Adam invites Eva to a movie. It’s a relatively short time period as compared to inviting her to a weekend to his parents’ cabin at the lake. Meeting for coffee at Starbucks would be an even smaller time commitment. It takes time for intimacy to develop, but if initial time offers are large, like the weekend, the person being invited may feel pushed into greater intimacy than they desire at this time. If the relationship were more advanced, a weekend could be appropriate.

Privacy: Privacy is freedom from the attention of others, a way to focus on each other without prying eyes and ears. Offers of privacy increase as one or both of the pair desires more intimacy. During the movie, Adam and Eve had a small amount of privacy as they were able to sit closely and exchange a few whispered comments. If desired, they could exchange intimate touches, and perhaps more if the film were sparsely attended. Later, at the coffee shop, a corner table kept them away from earshot of others. They lacked physical privacy as they were in view of the crowd, but they did have considerable conversational privacy as they were out of range of any curious eavesdroppers.

Time and Privacy Work Together: When time and privacy intermingle; the level of one affects the perception of the other. If Adam had invited Eva to the cabin along with his parents and friends, Eva’s perception of the time factor may have appeared less intimate. Of course, the sleeping arrangements would affect her perception of the level of privacy.

When you want more or less intimacy: When you want more from a friendship or potential romantic relationship, slowly increase your offers of time and privacy. Make sure you give the other person time to respond with an invitation or some other expression of interest. If the other person does not accept your offer, be sure not to increase your offers. Increasing without receiving a return offer may be perceived as intrusive. If you want a relationship with someone who cares about you, you must respect the law of reciprocity. Let the relationship level off at a place that is comfortable level for both of you.

When you want less intimacy, make offers of limited time and privacy and decline invitations that are too private or involve extended time periods. Long term good friends and romantic partners enjoy extended investments of time and privacy, but they develop their deep relationships in a step-by-step manner over a period of time. The more mindful you are in harnessing and respecting the time and privacy dimensions the closer you come to developing intimate and meaningful relationships.

Try this

• Use the tools of time and privacy to increase or decrease offers of intimacy.

• In all things take baby steps, allowing time for the other to respond.

Look for the next post where we’ll look at using the tools of time and Privacy to turn a cooled down sexual relationship to its former sizzle.

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Attracting a Partner to Heal Past Hurts

Do you attract a winner, only to find that one more time you  ended up with a loser?

Unbeknownst to them, most people who attract ill-chosen partners are trying to attract a relationship to heal a relationship from the past. Like riding on a merry-go-round, no matter how many times they change horses; they still are pointed in the same direction and still are going nowhere. You are not alone if you habitually attract wrong people into your life. The reasons vary, but for most, the process is subconscious. In all my years of providing relationship counseling, I never heard a person say they intentionally attract Mr. or Ms. Wrong. Most believe that, for some mysterious and magical reason, inappropriate partners find them. Denial helps us avoid the pain of self-realization and results in statements like these:

“How do all these losers find me?”

“I can’t help it; I’m drawn to unavailable men.”

“I’m a psycho-magnet for every insane woman in town.”

“When I’m in a new relationship, I always have high hopes, but sooner than later I find it is all wrong for me; even worse, he finds I’m all wrong for him.”

Lifting the veil of denial we find the naked truth:

A series of bad relationships don’t magically find us; we work hard to attract them.

Amy is a magnet for men who are emotionally unavailable due to alcoholism. Why does a bright and well educated woman like Amy do this? Underneath it all, she still feels that the emotional abandonment by her mother was her fault. So she works at her relationship, desperately trying to make him change. The little girl inside asks: “Have I tried hard enough? Have I been good enough? Mommy, do you love me yet?” If a partner would change for her, then wouldn’t she be special? Seeking this ‘special’ feeling led her to relationships where emotional availability was always the problem.

To Suzanne’s dismay, she realized that the controlling men she attracted had traits similar to her father. Unresolved father issues even dictated her rejection of her partners. Subconsciously, she again and again rejected her father’s control by dismissing even the men who could have been a suitable match. When she learns to set better boundaries with her father, she’ll be less likely to repeat the cycle of finding a controlling man just so she can break it off.

When Clint was a boy, his mother was unstable and needy. He recalls a time after his parent’s divorce when his mother threatened to take a gun from the mantel and kill herself. She screamed that she could not put up with the noise he made when playing with his brother. He took the gun from her and spent several hours comforting her. He believed he caused her problems and was responsible for helping her. Not surprisingly, he devoted his childhood to keeping his mother safe. As an adult, he is addicted to attracting unstable women and trying to help them. He subconsciously believes that if he could help a troubled woman become healthy, it would mean  his mother’s issues were not his fault. No matter how many women he helped it didn’t take away his childhood guilt. If a woman begins to become more self-sufficient, he’s gone. When he realizes how his mother’s illness manipulated him, he will attract a competent partner..

Besides sheer numbers, you can find if you are responsible for attracting bad relationships. Ask yourself this question: In how many relationships have you felt that everything in your life is riding on this relationship coming out right? If more than a few, you’ll want to get to the root of the problem so you can begin to attract individuals just right for you. Many times, awareness is all you need to repair the problem.

WHO DO YOU ATTRACT?

Think about the characteristics of the type of person you attract into your life.

Do you see a pattern of unavailability?

If so, what is the past relationship that you are trying to fix by attracting a similar relationship?

The Science of Finding Love That Lasts

Deep within our ancient biology, energy as old as mankind calls us to connect with others. Combining the best of psychology and biology, I wrote my newest book, The Science of Finding Love That Lasts, for singles eager for a meaningful and enduring love, but exhausted by the formidable task of finding and maintaining intimate relationships.

Many singles, prepare for, plan, network, and strategize their careers, but rarely give the same attention to their relationships, adopting a trial and error method of finding and maintaining love.

The scientific yet practical solutions in The Science of Finding Love That Lasts blend into a complete approach to finding an intimate and lasting partnership. Mother Nurture and Mother Nature no longer have to fight each other for domination of a relationship destiny. Mastery of the principles in The Science of Finding Love That Lasts awards singles the winning edge in finding an intimate relationship with a person as enlightened as them.

From the first chapter to the last, the discussion of the group therapy members allows the reader to uncover parts of their own story and the stories of their past or current partners. I changed the names and identifying characteristics to protect their rightful anonymity; I, however, made every effort to be true to their struggles and successes.

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CONTROL YOUR HALO: How to choose the right lover, friend, doctor and plumber

In the last post, I explained how the Halo Effect occurs when a potential partner has one or two important traits you value. You become so excited to find these traits that you assume the presence of other characteristics.

“He has an impressive butt and a bedazzling smile so he must also have all the other characteristics I want in a partner.”

Today, let’s straighten your halo to reveal four errors resulting in poor relationship choices. Straighten out these halo twists and you’ll find the right people for you.

THE FOUR HALO TWISTS

  1. GOOD LOOKS OR A GREAT PERSONALITY?

Which are more important—physical characteristics or personality? I know you answered personality because you strive for political correctness, but before you own that answer, ask yourself another question: Do you assume personality traits from physical attributes?

I’m sure you’ve heard some of myths about body parts and intelligence:

“If he’s good looking, he’s intelligent; but if he’s outrageously good looking, he’s shallow and stupid.”

“Gals with mammoth mammaries are not as bright as their less endowed sisters.”

“Bald men are better lovers than their head-full-of-hair-brothers.”
“Red-heads have quick tempers.”

Most say they favor personality over good looks, but research shows that attractive men and women are more frequently asked for dates than others rated as not so attractive but having a good personality. How could this be when most preferred positive personality traits over looks?

Research on this topic is clear. Attractive people are rated as smarter, healthier, more desirable, and more sociable than less attractive people.

Even breast size suggests personality traits to some. Large breasted women are rated as unintelligent, medium sized as most attractive and are liked the best, and small sized are rated as bright and modest.

2. THE DEVIL EFFECT
The devil effect is the reverse of the halo where a past negative experience clouds your perception.

“My first husband had eyes that were too close together. He turned out to be a jerk so now I have a negative feeling toward everyone I meet with close-set eyes.”

“My mother had dirty blonde hair. She’s manipulative, so I tend to be suspicious of dark blonde women.”

3. PHANTOM SKILLS

Let’s bend the halo to another perspective. Some attribute a certain skill set from a personality characteristic.

“His bedside manner is amazing so he must be the best doctor ever.”

“She’s the friendliest plumber I ever met, so she must be better than the no smile one I have now.”

“The kindergarten teacher is friendly to the parents so he must be an exceptional teacher.”

4. THE MYTH OF JUST LIKE ME

A final twist of the halo tells us that others with characteristics similar to our own must be good people. Related to this idea is the opposite attribution where we tend to be suspicious of traits we perceive as different from our own.

“She’s from a town close to my hometown in South Carolina so she must be trustworthy.”

“Because he went to the same college as me, he has to be ethical.”

“She’s from New York so she could never understand a Texan.”

TAKE A MOMENT to REMOVE YOUR ASSUMPTION FILTER

  In answering the question of Good Looks vs. Personality, think about whether you have linked physical attributes to personality. You may be setting yourself up for disappointment by assuming traits that may not be present.

 On the other hand, if you are rejecting others due to the Devil Effect, perhaps you are missing out.

 If you are assuming Phantom Skills based on personality, you may be surprised at the outcome of your surgery or your leaky sink.

 Remember those who have some Just Like Me characteristics do not automatically have the same values and interests as you do.

 Better to look at others without the assumption filter. You’ll see the real person, not someone you imagined. This is true in picking lovers, friends, plumbers and doctors.

THE HALO EFFECT: Causes Millions to Choose the Wrong Partner

From the minute Logan set eyes on Tom, his football player butt and piano keys smile drew her to him. Earlier thoughts of preferring a man who was attractive but also was thoughtful, valued family and education flew from her memory like runaway pages from a broken printer.

For you, what characteristics in a potential partner cause sparks to ignite and fan the feelings of attraction into a blaze that turns your self-awareness to ash? Although most of us have an idealized image of those special characteristics we desire in a partner, we many times fail to define the characteristics and give little thought to priorities.

Research tells us that characteristics important to both men and women are attractive build, mind of his or her own, sense of humor, of the same religion, and simple rather than sophisticated. How many of these characteristics are on your list, but escape from memory when a vivid characteristic or two leaps to the forefront?

We find more information when we break them down by sex:

Men’s Concept of the Ideal Woman:

Intelligent, good parent potential, can suffer in silence, even-tempered and calm, someone who needs you, athletic or active

Women’s Concept of the Ideal Man:

Ambitious, hard-working, intellectual, appreciates her independence, sensitive to her emotions, emotionally strong, likes art, music, books and is friendly and affectionate

Who wouldn’t fall in love with someone who meets those criteria? Regrettably, these features are idealized and unrealistic. Most men want a gal who suffers in silence and needs him, while women want a man who appreciates her independence. How many independent women will agree to suffer in silence?

What to Expect from Your Halo

How can intelligent men and women forego long held values for butts and smiles? Here’s how it works. When we see a few of the traits we crave, we call into operation The Halo Effect. In the “halo effect” we find a few traits from our ideal list and then pretend the rest are present.

If he has a tight ass and a great smile, he surely is warm, intellectual and sensitive to my emotions.

If she needs me, she must be intelligent and also willing to suffer in silence.

When we finally realize our error, we react with anger and disappointment as we watch another potential relationship circle the drain. We leave the relationship and search again.

Three tips to help you in your next dating adventure:
1. Have a clear idea of which traits are essential.
2. Avoid the Halo Effect.
3. Be open to new positive traits that are unique to that person.

Three Steps to Intimacy

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Do Your Part

  Intimacy is the love link between two people, but it is also a good deal more. If you desire a passionate and loving long-term relationship, you must do your part in contributing to the artful balance required in achieving and maintaining an intimate relationship. Let’s look at the truth about intimacy and the three requirements you must meet to get it.

Think Of Intimacy as a Three-Legged Stool

 Intimacy is defined as a non-defended and reciprocal interaction about significant emotional events. If this academic definition sits a little heavy on your brain, let’s pull up a stool and examine each leg to better understand the foundations of intimacy. When perched on your stool, you need three sturdy legs to keep you from falling. If you find yourself with one loose or missing leg, you have to spend time and energy keeping your balance.

 Relationships are the same. To prevent yourself from wobbling around and ultimately falling on your butt, you must acquire and keep in good repair, the following three legs:

        1. No Defense Required, names the first leg of your stool. In close family, friendships or romantic relationships, individuals can talk about anything without feeling defensive. No topic is out of bounds. No protection is needed. When defensive shields are lowered, positive energies flow between the two. Raised shields block the energies, stifling any hope of intimacy.

 2. Give and ­Take­, the second leg of your stool, represents a reciprocal or shared communication where each person is a full and willing participant. One person shares a personal experience or thought with emotional meaning; the other does the same. Many times the intimate communications reflect meaningful experiences shared by the two.

Give and Take easily navigates the two-way street of intimacy. If you are the only one sharing, you could be going the wrong way on a one-way street.

   3. Express Feelings, the third leg of the stool, refers to talking about emotional experiences and conversations. In short, this means sharing feelings. Communicating about feelings – not just reporting, requesting, social chit-chatting or problem-solving – is essential to achieving intimacy. When you can communicate without defensiveness, both give and take, and are willing to express your true feelings, you have tapped into your relationship potential.       _________________________

For more on relationships, link to my book: Win at Love!: 5 Hidden Forces to Make It Happen

You’ll find tons of good information to help you Win at Love.

Questions?
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Hope to hear from you soon,
Dr. B

Why Women Pursue Powerful Men, Part 3 of 3

Adam and Eva

Social biology propels women to pursue powerful men, but most women, with an average need for power, stomp hard on the brake of common sense, avoiding fast lane affairs destined to personal pain and public humiliation.

However, the biology of women with high need for power, like Paula Broadwell and Jill Kelley, trumps good judgment, as seen in the most recent scandal affecting the uppermost echelon of our military and the CIA.

   Most women admit to a sexual attraction to men of power, like David Petraeus, but only the most powerful of women will dare to chase the challenge. Paula Broadwell, former mistress of General David Petraeus, and Jill Kelley, the “flirtatious” socialite who tried to position herself to broker a major arms deal, are our most recent examples of this feminine high risk pursuit. If it hadn’t been for one gal snitching about the other to the FBI, would they have have carried on as before, immune to scandal?

  Are Powerful Women Really Immune to Scandal?

  While the biological power differential is present in romantic-sexual relationships, ill-timed attraction to an ill-chosen partner, for most of us, kick starts the frontal lobe of the brain where reason and fairness is housed. Powerful women pursuing even more powerful men do not believe they are putting spouses, children, and even national security at risk. What they do believe is that their power will protect their  secrets.

Power women, just like power men, live in a bubble of collusion where they are rarely challenged, have easy access, and have the confidence to believe they will never be caught. The world admires men like David Petraeus and Bill Clinton who flip off reason as they spread their sperm around. After a few remarks of, “How could he?” and some tongue clicking, we forgive their indiscretions and these men move on to yet another power position.    We are not so forgiving of the women. Powerful women are less relatable to women with less need for power, and also to men who have no sexual attraction to women with more power than they have.

   What Will Happen to the Players?

    Generals Petraeus and Allen have been briefly banished to the porch, but soon will again run with the big dogs. Jill Kelley will lose her socialite position, being lucky to find a volunteer position at the local dog shelter, as close as she’ll ever get again to the power dogs. She will both bask and isolate in the notoriety. Broadwell, despite her credentials and good works, will neither bask nor recover her former prestige.

 We will kick Paula Broadwell to the curb of permanent shame and humiliation where she’ll find other women who dared to ignore the risks and have sexual affairs with powerful men. As a society, we will truly be evolved when we forgive the indiscretions of not only the men, but also the women.

I invite you to “follow by email” to be notified of new posts. You’ll find this email feature on the right-hand side near the top.   You may also like to read:

 

  Why Powerful Men Cheat Why Women Pursue Powerful Men, Part 1

 

 

Why Women Pursue Powerful Men, Part 2

 

 

Ready for an Affair?

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You’ll find tons of good information to help you Win at Love.

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Why Women Pursue Powerful Men, Part 2 of 3

The Unique Biology of Powerful Women

Paula Broadwell rebuked restraint and slipped between the sheets of one of the most powerful men in the country, risking public shame and injury, heaving heartache on multiple family members, and jeopardizing national security. With millions of miles of penis from which to choose, why did Broadwell pursue this particular four-star phallus?

 Watching the drama of the Petraeus affair unfold causes us to examine our own power and the affair potential of both ourselves and our partners. This three part series answers: How does the power aphrodisiac make women succumb to and even pursue men of power?Why are many willing to risk the shame of public exposure?

Why would these women resort to email cat fights and squeal to the FBI to protect their positions?

The Influence of Paula Broadwell and Jill Kelley

A powerful woman in her own right, Paula Broadwell developed even more influence during her sexual affair with General David Petraeus. The world has noted how her unprecedented access to Petraeus is described by the title she gave her biography of the general —All In. Broadwell, a doctoral candidate, is not resting on wilted laurels. ABC News reports Broadwell recently starred as a submachine gun expert in a promotional video for a Swiss company trying to win U.S. military contracts.

The other other woman in this scenario, Jill Kelley, exchanged thousands of “flirtatious” emails with General John Allen who is the current Commander-In-Chief in Afghanistan and is slated to become the Supreme Commander of NATO. Although the media first portrayed Kelley as a socialite housewife, we now see that her power maneuvering extended beyond party planning. Kelley allegedly positioned herself as someone who could broker a multibillion-dollar energy deal with South Korea and asked for an $80 million commission.

Birds Peck, Cows Butt, and Women Rebuff

On the average, men have a greater interest in power than women do. We each, both males and females, fall somewhere along a continuum from little power interest to great power interest. In this way we are like cows and bulls with a definite butting order or birds with a rigid pecking order. When we see how pecking and butting hierarchies mirror human behavior, we intuitively understand that it is not healthy to pick on someone more powerful.

The higher the females of most animal groups rank in the power scale, the fewer their options for sex with a more dominant male.  Dominant cows and powerful women will butt away less dominant bulls and men respectively. A female’s biological imperative is to select the most powerful male available to her. This increases the availability of sexual partners for lower dominance women; however it greatly restricts possibilities for dominant women.

This differs from men, whose biology directs them to mate with as many women as possible, providing these women are of less power. Men, just like males in other animal groups, will not hook up with women with more power than they have.

Paula Broadwell and other powerful women with fewer options will go to great lengths to maintain their sex-power connections, including sabotaging what they perceive to be other women’s attempts to invade their territory. Broadwell’s biology directed her to pursue power, but unlike most women, her protective instincts and common sense did allow her to just say no.

In the final post, Part 3, we’ll look at why powerful women believe they will never be caught and what happens when they are.

You may also like  to read:
WHY POWERFUL MEN ARE MORE LIKELY TO CHEAT
Why Women Pursue Powerful Men, Part 1 of 3

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For more on relationships, link to my book: Win at Love!: 5 Hidden Forces to Make It Happen

You’ll find tons of good information to help you Win at Love.

Questions?
Send your questions to me at totallywinatlove@yahoo.com

Hope to hear from you soon,
Dr. B