Why Women Pursue Powerful Men, Part 3 of 3

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Social biology propels women to pursue powerful men, but most women, with an average need for power, stomp hard on the brake of common sense, avoiding fast lane affairs destined to personal pain and public humiliation.

However, the biology of women with high need for power, like Paula Broadwell and Jill Kelley, trumps good judgment, as seen in the most recent scandal affecting the uppermost echelon of our military and the CIA.

   Most women admit to a sexual attraction to men of power, like David Petraeus, but only the most powerful of women will dare to chase the challenge. Paula Broadwell, former mistress of General David Petraeus, and Jill Kelley, the “flirtatious” socialite who tried to position herself to broker a major arms deal, are our most recent examples of this feminine high risk pursuit. If it hadn’t been for one gal snitching about the other to the FBI, would they have have carried on as before, immune to scandal?

  Are Powerful Women Really Immune to Scandal?

  While the biological power differential is present in romantic-sexual relationships, ill-timed attraction to an ill-chosen partner, for most of us, kick starts the frontal lobe of the brain where reason and fairness is housed. Powerful women pursuing even more powerful men do not believe they are putting spouses, children, and even national security at risk. What they do believe is that their power will protect their  secrets.

Power women, just like power men, live in a bubble of collusion where they are rarely challenged, have easy access, and have the confidence to believe they will never be caught. The world admires men like David Petraeus and Bill Clinton who flip off reason as they spread their sperm around. After a few remarks of, “How could he?” and some tongue clicking, we forgive their indiscretions and these men move on to yet another power position.    We are not so forgiving of the women. Powerful women are less relatable to women with less need for power, and also to men who have no sexual attraction to women with more power than they have.

   What Will Happen to the Players?

    Generals Petraeus and Allen have been briefly banished to the porch, but soon will again run with the big dogs. Jill Kelley will lose her socialite position, being lucky to find a volunteer position at the local dog shelter, as close as she’ll ever get again to the power dogs. She will both bask and isolate in the notoriety. Broadwell, despite her credentials and good works, will neither bask nor recover her former prestige.

 We will kick Paula Broadwell to the curb of permanent shame and humiliation where she’ll find other women who dared to ignore the risks and have sexual affairs with powerful men. As a society, we will truly be evolved when we forgive the indiscretions of not only the men, but also the women.

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  Why Powerful Men Cheat Why Women Pursue Powerful Men, Part 1

 

 

Why Women Pursue Powerful Men, Part 2

 

 

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