Why Women Live Longer, but Men Are Happier

Adam and Eva

Eva’s frontal cortex is far more active than Adam’s, resulting in qualities related to living a longer life than Adam. Eva’s enhanced level of self-control makes her less likely than Adam to become addicted to drugs or alcohol, spend time in jail or become a psychopath. On the other hand, Eva is more likely to take better care of her health and visit her doctor more frequently than the typical Adam, who prefers to avoid the doctor.

Dr. Amen, who writes about female brain function, says women have “appropriate worry,” causing them to avoid high risk behaviors. He believes that appropriate worry is responsible for Eva’s longevity edge over Adam. Although worry about negative consequences keeps women alive longer than men, it does come with a cost. Women are twice as likely to suffer from anxiety and depression as are men. According to the Mayo Clinic, twenty percent of all women will develop depression sometime in their lifetime.

In contrast to Eva, Adam is a feel good, be happy, don’t worry kind of guy. Due to less activity in his frontal cortex he has less impulse control and appropriate worry than Eva. Consequently he is more likely than Eva to die from accidents and preventable illnesses.

Adam may be happier than Eva because he’s engaging in high risk behaviors, or because he doesn’t have the same ability to worry, but an additional factor is more important than the two of these put together. Adam produces a whopping 52 percent more serotonin than Eva. You’ve heard about serotonin as it relates to antidepressants, specifically how many of the popular antidepressants operate to make more serotonin available in our bodies. For men, a lower level of appropriate worry and a higher level of serotonin results in a “don’t worry, be happy attitude.

Read more at Surprising Differences Between the Male and Female Brain | Yahoo! Health.

Why Women Pursue Powerful Men, Part 3 of 3

Adam and Eva

Social biology propels women to pursue powerful men, but most women, with an average need for power, stomp hard on the brake of common sense, avoiding fast lane affairs destined to personal pain and public humiliation.

However, the biology of women with high need for power, like Paula Broadwell and Jill Kelley, trumps good judgment, as seen in the most recent scandal affecting the uppermost echelon of our military and the CIA.

   Most women admit to a sexual attraction to men of power, like David Petraeus, but only the most powerful of women will dare to chase the challenge. Paula Broadwell, former mistress of General David Petraeus, and Jill Kelley, the “flirtatious” socialite who tried to position herself to broker a major arms deal, are our most recent examples of this feminine high risk pursuit. If it hadn’t been for one gal snitching about the other to the FBI, would they have have carried on as before, immune to scandal?

  Are Powerful Women Really Immune to Scandal?

  While the biological power differential is present in romantic-sexual relationships, ill-timed attraction to an ill-chosen partner, for most of us, kick starts the frontal lobe of the brain where reason and fairness is housed. Powerful women pursuing even more powerful men do not believe they are putting spouses, children, and even national security at risk. What they do believe is that their power will protect their  secrets.

Power women, just like power men, live in a bubble of collusion where they are rarely challenged, have easy access, and have the confidence to believe they will never be caught. The world admires men like David Petraeus and Bill Clinton who flip off reason as they spread their sperm around. After a few remarks of, “How could he?” and some tongue clicking, we forgive their indiscretions and these men move on to yet another power position.    We are not so forgiving of the women. Powerful women are less relatable to women with less need for power, and also to men who have no sexual attraction to women with more power than they have.

   What Will Happen to the Players?

    Generals Petraeus and Allen have been briefly banished to the porch, but soon will again run with the big dogs. Jill Kelley will lose her socialite position, being lucky to find a volunteer position at the local dog shelter, as close as she’ll ever get again to the power dogs. She will both bask and isolate in the notoriety. Broadwell, despite her credentials and good works, will neither bask nor recover her former prestige.

 We will kick Paula Broadwell to the curb of permanent shame and humiliation where she’ll find other women who dared to ignore the risks and have sexual affairs with powerful men. As a society, we will truly be evolved when we forgive the indiscretions of not only the men, but also the women.

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Why Women Pursue Powerful Men, Part 2 of 3

The Unique Biology of Powerful Women

Paula Broadwell rebuked restraint and slipped between the sheets of one of the most powerful men in the country, risking public shame and injury, heaving heartache on multiple family members, and jeopardizing national security. With millions of miles of penis from which to choose, why did Broadwell pursue this particular four-star phallus?

 Watching the drama of the Petraeus affair unfold causes us to examine our own power and the affair potential of both ourselves and our partners. This three part series answers: How does the power aphrodisiac make women succumb to and even pursue men of power?Why are many willing to risk the shame of public exposure?

Why would these women resort to email cat fights and squeal to the FBI to protect their positions?

The Influence of Paula Broadwell and Jill Kelley

A powerful woman in her own right, Paula Broadwell developed even more influence during her sexual affair with General David Petraeus. The world has noted how her unprecedented access to Petraeus is described by the title she gave her biography of the general —All In. Broadwell, a doctoral candidate, is not resting on wilted laurels. ABC News reports Broadwell recently starred as a submachine gun expert in a promotional video for a Swiss company trying to win U.S. military contracts.

The other other woman in this scenario, Jill Kelley, exchanged thousands of “flirtatious” emails with General John Allen who is the current Commander-In-Chief in Afghanistan and is slated to become the Supreme Commander of NATO. Although the media first portrayed Kelley as a socialite housewife, we now see that her power maneuvering extended beyond party planning. Kelley allegedly positioned herself as someone who could broker a multibillion-dollar energy deal with South Korea and asked for an $80 million commission.

Birds Peck, Cows Butt, and Women Rebuff

On the average, men have a greater interest in power than women do. We each, both males and females, fall somewhere along a continuum from little power interest to great power interest. In this way we are like cows and bulls with a definite butting order or birds with a rigid pecking order. When we see how pecking and butting hierarchies mirror human behavior, we intuitively understand that it is not healthy to pick on someone more powerful.

The higher the females of most animal groups rank in the power scale, the fewer their options for sex with a more dominant male.  Dominant cows and powerful women will butt away less dominant bulls and men respectively. A female’s biological imperative is to select the most powerful male available to her. This increases the availability of sexual partners for lower dominance women; however it greatly restricts possibilities for dominant women.

This differs from men, whose biology directs them to mate with as many women as possible, providing these women are of less power. Men, just like males in other animal groups, will not hook up with women with more power than they have.

Paula Broadwell and other powerful women with fewer options will go to great lengths to maintain their sex-power connections, including sabotaging what they perceive to be other women’s attempts to invade their territory. Broadwell’s biology directed her to pursue power, but unlike most women, her protective instincts and common sense did allow her to just say no.

In the final post, Part 3, we’ll look at why powerful women believe they will never be caught and what happens when they are.

You may also like  to read:
WHY POWERFUL MEN ARE MORE LIKELY TO CHEAT
Why Women Pursue Powerful Men, Part 1 of 3

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Why Women Pursue Powerful Men, Part 1 of 3

  topic: extramarital affairs __________________________________________

We are voyeurs to power, tracking the Petraeus scandal, searching for vicarious reflections of ourselves. Power, the aphrodisiac attracting women to alpha men, is a universal phenomenon currently being played out by larger than life women, Paula Broadwell and Jill Kelley. We, bags of popped corn in hand, took front row seats to watch Kelley slash Broadwell’s sexual liaison with CIA director and four-star general David Petraeus, a power connection Broadwell was destined to pursue. Staying for the second act, we saw Kelly act out her own power issues by countless pages of “flirtatious” emails to and from General John Allen, the current Commander-In-Chief in Afghanistan and the nominee for the Supreme Commander of NATO. As the tragedy turns comedic, we watch and wonder:

How does aphrodisiac of power make women succumb to and even pursue men of power?

Why are many willing to risk the shame of public exposure?

Why would these women resort to email cat fights and squeal to the FBI to protect their positions?

Answers to these questions are found deep in the DNA of our ancient biology. In this post we’ll look at how most of us juggle lust and reason to either keep from or submit to an extramarital affair.

The Reckless Sperm and the Cautious Egg

The feminine root of this story of sex, power, risk, and exposure is simple unbridled sexuality. Social biology tells us that sexual behavior is chiefly biological, assuring continuation of the species. Men increase their chances of reproducing their genetic material by spreading their millions of sperm around to as many women as possible. Women, with only one egg a month to pledge to their fertility, apply caution in sharing their egg. While men may accuse them of holding out, they are merely acting out their biological imperative of waiting for a powerful man to fight off the lions and help care the egg. In contemporary times the power element is ladies’ choice: physical, intellectual, social, financial, or political, but the biological goal is the same—capture or surrender to a man of power.

This biological imperative of wide sperm distribution provokes and pesters the peckers of average men, but most, protecting their spouse and children, restraint their urges to wander in the path of Johnny Appleseed as he spread his seed across the land. Why is it that many men didn’t get the memo to avoid roving rendezvous? For men, the higher their own perception of power, the more risks they will take.

Women, however, are biologically predestined to exert caution in sharing their egg, as seen in statistics showing that fewer women than men have affairs. Most women follow this directive by pairing with a man more powerful than them for a primary relationship. While they find men with more power than their spouses sexually attractive, most take no risks in pursuing these men. If secure in her partner’s power being greater than her own, and if he is helping to raise the hypothetical egg, she is unlikely to wander.

In Part 2 of Why Women Pursue Powerful Men we’ll look at how the unique biology of powerful woman compels them to ignore the millions of miles of available penis, risking public shame and humiliation to pursue a four-star phallus.

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Dear Dr. B: Not The Right Smell for Me

Topic: pheromones
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Q  Dear Dr. B,
My boyfriend is an all ‘round great guy. Common interests, attractive, fun, loves my family—he has it all. It ought to work except for one problem which is the reason I’m considering breaking up with him. I’m ashamed to say this but…he never smelled right.

My friends say he smells pleasant enough but to me his scent is offensive. I bought him a cologne that I liked and he wears it 24-7 but it’s useless. I feel romantic toward him but when we get close his odor douses any sexual fire I had for him. He’s so great that he doesn’t even mind when I put him off with a “headache.”

I used to think that pheromones were not all that important in humans but now I’m wondering. I’ve dated lots of men who’s scent, especially in close dancing, almost made me swoon. I remember sleeping with a shirt of a boyfriend who left me for someone else—probably for a woman who smelled better. Should I break up with him or wait to see if I can get used to the odor?

                                                                 Sniffer Working Overtime
 
  A     In searching for a compatible match, your biochemistry, with the help of shared brain waves, completes an instantaneous DNA comparison, which helps to identify a mate with an immune system different enough to assure healthy offspring. respond to this match with profound sexual attraction. Pheromones, using the passage of scent, are the catalyst to the entire process. For you, the scent from the pheromones is easily detectable; for others it is a subliminal transfer without an obvious scent. Either way you are indeed describing the impact of pheromones. You can read more on brain wave interaction on a previous blog entitled Chemistry and Love or on the web site of , Helen Fisher leading expert on the chemistry of love.

We used to think humans were exempt from the effects of hormones, but this is not true. In a classic research study, sweaty tee shirts were collected from a group of men following physical activity. Female subjects sniffed each of the shirts, selecting their favorite odor. You won’t be surprised to find that each woman selected a compatible match. If this interests you, check out the you tube video on sweaty t-shirts.

Sounds like Boyfriend is not a match. The fact that “he didn’t mind” when you turned off sexually, suggests that he may feel the same lack of passion. If you desire a a long term relationship that you can commit to for life, then hold out for a DNA match that makes you swoon with passion. Every one with whom you swoon is not going to make a life partner but it’s a necessary first step.

Keep me posted and remember…you can win at love!
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Q and A with Dr. B: Third Phase of Love

Q I read your articles about sex drive and romantic love but I don’t think I have either of these very much. I’ve been married to my wonderful husband for over 50 years. Neither of us has much of a sex drive and aren’t worried about it. I don’t even think we have a lot of romance anymore. I know this sounds awful but we are happy and do have something else that keeps us connected. Every night before we go to sleep my husband flops his leg over mine. It’s a wonderful feeling. If he forgets, I find myself stretching my  foot out to find his. Is this weird or what?
                                             Working on a Foot Fetish

A    Not weird at all and certainly not a foot fetish. You have provided a beautiful example of the third stage of love we refer to as attachment. It’s the bonding occurring between two individuals after the chemicals fueling the romantic phase have been exhausted. Fortunately,endorphins released from the contact with your partner provide feelings of well-being and security, so necessary in long term relationships. Sex and even cuddling, hugging, or flopping a foot over your partner’s foot releases these endorphins providing intense feelings of love and attachment. Couples embracing this phase consider themselves to be mated for life.
Many animals have a phase similar to attachment which is seen in certain behaviors such as tail flopping. Lions, while lying quietly together waiting for sleep, tend to flop one tail over the other. Long-term human couples do the same. Now that we have no usable tail, we are destined to flop one leg over our partner’s as a way of preparing for the ritual of sleep. Tail or no tail, it’s still tail flopping behavior and still releases chemicals necessary to long term bonding.
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Research shows that both men and women prefer conventional dating over hook-ups when finding a relationship is the goal. However, for those that do prefer hook-up to dating, men are found in much greater numbers. Why? The author of the following article suggests it’s because men have greater independence needs. I think it’s because of the old sperm and egg story. Men have millions of sperm so their best chance of perpetuating the species is to spread that sperm around to as many women as possible. Women, on the other hand, only produce one egg a month it behooves them to hold out for a strong male to hang around and help her raise the egg.

 
Hooking Up vs. Dating

By Rick Nauert PhDSenior News EditorReviewed by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on April 8, 2010

A new study explores the gender preference of two different forms of dating common on university campuses.
Although both genders perceive similar benefits and risks to dating and hooking up, more women than men continue to prefer dating whereas more men than women rate hooking up above dating.
Traditional dating follows a predictable pattern whereby the man is active − he asks the woman to go out with him, organizes the date and at the end of it may initiate sexual activity; whereas the woman is reactive − she waits to be asked out on a date and accepts or rejects the man’s sexual overtures.
They know each other or want to get to know one another and there is the prospect of a future relationship.

In contrast, a hookup is a casual sexual encounter which usually occurs between people who are strangers or brief acquaintances. For instance, two people meet at a party where they have been drinking; they flirt and engage in sexual behaviors from kissing to sexual intercourse, with no commitment to a future relationship.

Carolyn Bradshaw from James Madison University in Virginia and colleagues explored the reasons that motivate college men and women to hook up or to date, as well as the perceived relative benefits and costs of the two practices. Their findings are published online in Springer’s journal Sex Roles.
Bradshaw and team exposed 150 female and 71 male college students from a southern, public American university to a variety of dating or hooking up situations, such as when there was potential for a relationship, when their partner had a great personality and when drinking was involved.
They asked the students the extent to which they would prefer dating or hooking up in each situation.
The participants were also asked to pick the top three benefits and top three risks associated with dating and hooking up from a checklist, as well as provide details of their dating and hooking up activities over the past two years.
Even though men initiated significantly more first dates than women, there was no gender difference in the number of first dates or number of hookups. For both men and women, the number of hookups was nearly double the number of first dates.
Overall, both genders showed a preference for traditional dating over hooking up. However, of those students who strongly preferred traditional dating, there were significantly more women than men (41 percent vs. 20 percent).
Of those who showed a strong preference for hooking up, there were far fewer women than men (2 percent vs. 17 percent).
However, context mattered. When considering the possibility of a long-term relationship, both women and men preferred dating over hooking up; however, when the possibility of a relationship was not mentioned, men preferred hooking up and women preferred dating.
On the whole, men and women agreed on the benefits and risks of dating and hooking up. However, there were some notable differences:

• Women more than men seem to want a relationship. They fear, both in dating and hooking up, that they will become emotionally attached to a partner who is not interested in them.
• Men more than women seem to value independence. They fear that even in hooking-up relationships, which are supposed to be free of commitments, a woman might seek to establish a relationship.

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ROMANCE: the “starter” category.
Subservience is romantic when it’s reciprocal, appreciated, and never expected.

We’ve looked at three of the six categories of relationships: companionship, caring and intimacy. Today we’ll look at Romance, which is defined as the hearts and flowers of a relationship. It’s what you do when you want to compliment or validate your partner.

The chemistry of romance

I call romance the starter category, important in the start of a relationship where it causes the release of endorphins and other chemicals typically produced during the first two years of a love relationship. After time, romance waxes and wanes as the pressures of other categories compete. With less romance the endorphins production decreases. When a relationship loses its energy and shows signs of fatigue, one of the pair does something romantic to spice up the partnership. Romantic gestures kick start a bland relationship and ignite dwindling passions. Other categories remain fairly consistent over the course of a relationship, but romance normally surges as needed and then returns to a lower voltage.

Courtesy and compliments

While caring when the other is in need is an essential category it does not substitute for romance. However, there is a way caring can be romantic. When a couple does little things for each other that are appreciated but not at all needed they are expressing romance. Vilma frequently brings Fred his slippers while he listens to the six o’clock news. She enjoys making him feel special. If Fred expected his slippers as a routine task for Vilma to perform it wouldn’t be romantic; it would be a chore. Fred thanks Vilma for the slippers and even thanks her for routine chores like dinner and doing the dishes. Fred would say, “Vilma, thank you for the lovely dinner. How sweet of you to take the time to make the cream sauce for the peas.

Amy interjects, “Oh, give me a break. Don’t you think that’s a bit subservient? I know Fred and Vilma are from a different generation, but really!”

Amy would be correct if the romantic gestures only went one way, but for Fred, age 94, and Vilma, age 89, it’s definitely a two way street. Fred always makes her evening cocktail, right at five o’clock, just the way she likes it. Although Fred has been serving her cocktail for more than fifty years Vilma chooses to look upon the occasion as a pleasant and romantic surprise. Also, he’s quick to notice when she changes her hair or sports a new article of clothing; rarely does he forget to compliment her efforts to look nice. Sometimes he even puts her bath towel in the clothes dryer so it’s “nice and warm” when she steps out of the shower. Fred says the courtesies they show to each other have kept the romance alive and smoothed out the speed bumps experienced over their many years. Subservience is romantic when it’s reciprocal, appreciated, and never expected.

Next post offers more on romantic gestures.

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Unconscious Sex: bikes and drummers

There are times in your life when having sex may not be a conscious choice. Mark recalls his sophomore year in college, when he spent a summer bicycling in Europe. One drizzly afternoon his trip was postponed as a sudden cloud burst drenched him with driving rain. He took cover under a bridge. Another cyclist, a young and soaked to the skin, Italian woman, was also seeking the refuge of the bridge. Although the two did not share a common language they shared Mark’s tarp and spent the afternoon making love sheltered from the storm. While a treasured experience, Mark may have neglected to peruse what could have been an ongoing intimate relationship. Although a beautiful memory, he feels the loss of what could have been. Mark says, “Maybe, with all my affairs, I’ve been subconsciously trying to recreate the intimacy found under the bridge.”
(Click on “read more” for the rest of the story.)

Amy has a similar story of meeting a drummer in a rock band and having a passionate night of sex. As she tells the story she’s confident he was a chemistry match.? Because Amy was dedicating her time and energy to finishing her master’s degree and furthering her career, she believed the drummer to be a mismatch. Despite his efforts to contact her, she refused to see him and berated herself for being irresponsible.

Six years later Amy presented a professional paper at a conference in Toronto; to her surprise the drummer appeared at her presentation. Over coffee Amy discovered he was a university professor, who, at the time of their encounter, taught at the same university where she studied. He had played drums in high school and was filling in for a friend when they first met. Amy says, “He would have been ideal for me, but I hadn’t taken the time to find out more about him. We had so much in common; unfortunately he now was married with a baby on the way.”

As you can see from Mark and Amy’s story, spontaneous sex with a chemistry match can be passionate and life changing. I’m not suggesting you have sex with every person for whom you feel an attraction, but if it happens don’t be so quick to blow it off as a misadventure.

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Is your relationship a chemical match?

 Inside ‘The Male Brain’  Reading this link reminded me of other important biochemical facts about relationships that I’ve been meaning to share with you. Today we’ll first look at what happens when you find a chemical match. Second, we’ll answer the age old question of why men (biologically speaking) want to spread their sperm around. As always, your comments and questions are invited and appreciated.

High on love

Your body is a powerhouse of energy, signaling your heart to beat and transferring fast-as-light impulses across your synaptic junctions. Electrical currents pulse through every body system, triggering an army of hormones, enzymes and other indispensable chemicals, assuring your physiology operates with optimal balance and effectiveness. The offensive and defensive parameters of your finely tuned metabolic machine have more automatic processes than previously thought possible. With recent technological advances, researchers can now measure the mass of electrical current racing across your brain, directing every bodily function, known and unknown. Brain scans light up like a summer electrical storm as various areas of the brain operate.

Dr. Helen Fisher,  http://www.helenfisher.com/, anthropologist and leading expert on the biochemistry of love,  tells us our brain is built for love. The area of the brain in love lighting up like a Christmas tree is the same as the area responding to snorting cocaine. The illumination of this “love high” is greater than the response to sex, which may explain why some persist beyond reason when love is not returned. For some, love can become an addiction, just as fierce and resistant as drug addiction.

When meeting someone new, or even just standing within three feet of a person, the exchange of brain waves begins. Every individual is a distinct energy system. When meeting another person with their own distinct energy system, an initial surge of measurable electrical exchange soars between the two. Each brain is actually looking for an energy system with compatible DNA. Even before you have time to say, “Hi, How are you?” the energy exchange is well under way. If biochemical compatibility is determined, the chemical explosions called for by the brain would probably render you speechless; maybe nature’s way of not letting us screw it up with words. Understanding the significant impact of your biology can and will enhance your relationship potential.

Max and Maxine
Survival of the species

According to social biology every dating-mating behavior is designed for continuation of the species. Allow me to introduce prehistoric cave dwellers, Max and Maxine. Max spots Maxine filling water jugs at the stream south of the compound and offers to carry the jugs to her cave. As soon as they are within three feet of each other, brain waves exchange and sparks fly; each has found their match. Max emits millions of sperm with each ejaculation; so his best chance of reproducing his genetic material is to spread his sperm around to a variety of women he finds attractive. Maxine however has only one egg a month, so she is more selective. In order for her to reproduce her genetic material she feels compelled to save her egg for a man who can fight off lions and will hang around to help her raise the egg. Max and Maxine, while attractive to each other, may not be as attractive to us; foreheads sharply slanted, the frontal lobes of their brain have not yet developed reasoning skills. Their initial attraction, having sex, and creating a family is entirely biologically based. Deep in her DNA, Maxine knew Max was the one who would protect her and help raise their offspring. When Max and Maxine have an argument not yet resolved, Max may think Maxine is purposely punishing him by withholding sex. Maxine, however, is directed by biological energies, telling her to wait until the situation is resolved and Max once again would be willing to protect her from hungry lions.

Today men continue in their desire for more frequent sex than women and participate in significantly more affairs. Women are frequently accused of being withholding; waiting for just the right time and person for sex. Deep in the women’s ancient biology she still wants to save sex for a strong partner who will help her raise her egg.

A powerful man today may be defined differently than Max, who could fend off the occasional lion. Max today, may be strong because he’s educated or successful; or any number of reasons contemporary Maxine’s developed brain has reasoned important. Even if modern-day Max and Maxine decide to not have children, these biological energies are still at play.

There are other examples of behavior promoting continuation of the species; butting order in cows and pecking order in birds. Did you know that a cow will not mate with a less dominate bull? She’ll butt him away every time. Pecking order in birds can be altered by injection of sex hormones. I wonder if that’s what happened in Alfred Hitchcock’s classic film, “The Birds?” A chicken does not have a frontal lobe capable of reason, but tirelessly and with seemingly great commitment, she sits on her eggs until her precious chicks are hatched. Such a demonstration of motherly devotion seems admirable. However, she has not reasoned that her job is to protect her eggs; rather a specific hormone is released when she lays her eggs, causing a burning hot spot on her bottom. She sits on the eggs to cool her backside. Women giving birth release the chemical oxytocin providing them an intense feeling of love for their infant. Chickens, humans, or cattle; sexual biology promotes survival of offspring.