Why Women Pursue Powerful Men, Part 3 of 3

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Social biology propels women to pursue powerful men, but most women, with an average need for power, stomp hard on the brake of common sense, avoiding fast lane affairs destined to personal pain and public humiliation.

However, the biology of women with high need for power, like Paula Broadwell and Jill Kelley, trumps good judgment, as seen in the most recent scandal affecting the uppermost echelon of our military and the CIA.

   Most women admit to a sexual attraction to men of power, like David Petraeus, but only the most powerful of women will dare to chase the challenge. Paula Broadwell, former mistress of General David Petraeus, and Jill Kelley, the “flirtatious” socialite who tried to position herself to broker a major arms deal, are our most recent examples of this feminine high risk pursuit. If it hadn’t been for one gal snitching about the other to the FBI, would they have have carried on as before, immune to scandal?

  Are Powerful Women Really Immune to Scandal?

  While the biological power differential is present in romantic-sexual relationships, ill-timed attraction to an ill-chosen partner, for most of us, kick starts the frontal lobe of the brain where reason and fairness is housed. Powerful women pursuing even more powerful men do not believe they are putting spouses, children, and even national security at risk. What they do believe is that their power will protect their  secrets.

Power women, just like power men, live in a bubble of collusion where they are rarely challenged, have easy access, and have the confidence to believe they will never be caught. The world admires men like David Petraeus and Bill Clinton who flip off reason as they spread their sperm around. After a few remarks of, “How could he?” and some tongue clicking, we forgive their indiscretions and these men move on to yet another power position.    We are not so forgiving of the women. Powerful women are less relatable to women with less need for power, and also to men who have no sexual attraction to women with more power than they have.

   What Will Happen to the Players?

    Generals Petraeus and Allen have been briefly banished to the porch, but soon will again run with the big dogs. Jill Kelley will lose her socialite position, being lucky to find a volunteer position at the local dog shelter, as close as she’ll ever get again to the power dogs. She will both bask and isolate in the notoriety. Broadwell, despite her credentials and good works, will neither bask nor recover her former prestige.

 We will kick Paula Broadwell to the curb of permanent shame and humiliation where she’ll find other women who dared to ignore the risks and have sexual affairs with powerful men. As a society, we will truly be evolved when we forgive the indiscretions of not only the men, but also the women.

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Why Women Pursue Powerful Men, Part 2 of 3

The Unique Biology of Powerful Women

Paula Broadwell rebuked restraint and slipped between the sheets of one of the most powerful men in the country, risking public shame and injury, heaving heartache on multiple family members, and jeopardizing national security. With millions of miles of penis from which to choose, why did Broadwell pursue this particular four-star phallus?

 Watching the drama of the Petraeus affair unfold causes us to examine our own power and the affair potential of both ourselves and our partners. This three part series answers: How does the power aphrodisiac make women succumb to and even pursue men of power?Why are many willing to risk the shame of public exposure?

Why would these women resort to email cat fights and squeal to the FBI to protect their positions?

The Influence of Paula Broadwell and Jill Kelley

A powerful woman in her own right, Paula Broadwell developed even more influence during her sexual affair with General David Petraeus. The world has noted how her unprecedented access to Petraeus is described by the title she gave her biography of the general —All In. Broadwell, a doctoral candidate, is not resting on wilted laurels. ABC News reports Broadwell recently starred as a submachine gun expert in a promotional video for a Swiss company trying to win U.S. military contracts.

The other other woman in this scenario, Jill Kelley, exchanged thousands of “flirtatious” emails with General John Allen who is the current Commander-In-Chief in Afghanistan and is slated to become the Supreme Commander of NATO. Although the media first portrayed Kelley as a socialite housewife, we now see that her power maneuvering extended beyond party planning. Kelley allegedly positioned herself as someone who could broker a multibillion-dollar energy deal with South Korea and asked for an $80 million commission.

Birds Peck, Cows Butt, and Women Rebuff

On the average, men have a greater interest in power than women do. We each, both males and females, fall somewhere along a continuum from little power interest to great power interest. In this way we are like cows and bulls with a definite butting order or birds with a rigid pecking order. When we see how pecking and butting hierarchies mirror human behavior, we intuitively understand that it is not healthy to pick on someone more powerful.

The higher the females of most animal groups rank in the power scale, the fewer their options for sex with a more dominant male.  Dominant cows and powerful women will butt away less dominant bulls and men respectively. A female’s biological imperative is to select the most powerful male available to her. This increases the availability of sexual partners for lower dominance women; however it greatly restricts possibilities for dominant women.

This differs from men, whose biology directs them to mate with as many women as possible, providing these women are of less power. Men, just like males in other animal groups, will not hook up with women with more power than they have.

Paula Broadwell and other powerful women with fewer options will go to great lengths to maintain their sex-power connections, including sabotaging what they perceive to be other women’s attempts to invade their territory. Broadwell’s biology directed her to pursue power, but unlike most women, her protective instincts and common sense did allow her to just say no.

In the final post, Part 3, we’ll look at why powerful women believe they will never be caught and what happens when they are.

You may also like  to read:
WHY POWERFUL MEN ARE MORE LIKELY TO CHEAT
Why Women Pursue Powerful Men, Part 1 of 3

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Q and A with Dr. B: Looking for Lust

 
Q   Please explain the phenomenon of lust. Does it have anything to do with sex drive?
                       Wondering about Lust
 
A   The terms lust and sex drive can be used interchangeably. Like a 747 revving up for full throttle at lift off, estrogen, the female hormone, and testosterone, the male hormone, keep you in constant readiness to search for and accept a match. When brain waves cross and a match is found, it’s like getting the take off command from traffic control. Feelings of lust pervade your consciousness as the neurotransmitter, phenyl ethylamine (PEA), floods the brain when initial sexual attraction occurs. Studies of two people with mutual attraction found both to have high levels of PEA. Also found in chocolate, PEA produces the loving feeling reported when chocolate is ingested.The experience of lust gives you a strong push in the direction of a relationship but once a relationship is established, romantic love keeps you there.
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